Wednesday, 31 October 2018
11 Great Rainy Day Activities for Kids
Looking to interview dads who became dads later in life.
Hey guys! If any of y'all are older dads who waited 'til late 30s/40s/50s or later, I'd love to interview you for an article I'm working on -- would be happy to plug your respective blogs as well! DM me if you're interested!
Seven Random Things That I Realized After Becoming a Father - Why spare time, vinegar, and drive-thrus are so important!
The Best Strength Training for Runners - RiseFIT
Tuesday, 30 October 2018
Steve Irwin talking about his greatest achievement
EMSK How to properly make their bed.
Strength & Conditioning Coach, Inna Koppel, Talks Body Image, Training Environment, and Continuing Physical Independence into Old Age All from the Perspective of Females
Can anyone help explain CNS stress to me? (Ultramarathon runner adding strength)
I’m an ultramarathon runner that has used SL 5x5 in the past, and I’m making a complete reset after a month off my feet.
I plan to add strength training (probably not SL) to coincide with my training routine but I’ve had many tell me that it will be a heavy stress on my Central Nervous System to do both (admittedly I plan to use strength to compliment my running and it won’t be a higher priority than my runs). My goal is to use strength as an injury prevention tool as well as to improve myself as a runner.
-does someone have an Explanation of CNS stress that relates to running and/or strength training?
-what are the symptoms of too much CNS stress?
-what can I do to minimize CNS stress?
-is there anything else I’ve missed?
Post-workout meal necessary?
I workout really late and go really hard. Deadlifts, squats and may compound movements. I was wondering if it is ok to go to sleep right after without eating anything after a workout despite my glycogen levels being depleted and being hungry.
Monday, 29 October 2018
Good PR app?
Anyone have a recommendation on a good app to keep track on rep PR's for each weight on big lifts? I've been using "strength" but it did not record or count my previous entry on a rep record on a certain weight so I'm looking for something more trustworthy.
Losing Weight / Fat With 5x5 Starting Strength
Hi all,
First post here and first real time doing this kind of workout stuff strict.
First my stats.
Weight 295lb / Height 5'11" / Age 29 / Job is at a desk
Starting weights (9/14): Squats 150lbs / Bench 90lb / Barbell Row 90lb / Overhead Press 70lb / Deadlift 170lb / Tricep Pulldown 50lb / Bicep Curl 40lb
Current weights (10/25 & 10/27): Squats 215lbs / Bench 135lb / Barbell Row 140lb / Overhead Press 95lb / Deadlift 235lb / Tricep Pulldown 80lb / Bicep Curl 70lb
My normal workout is 15 - 20 minutes of cardio (uphill treadmill jog, sometimes sprint) and then it is followed by an A day (Squat/Bench/Row/Bicep) and B day (Squat/Press/Deadlift/Tricep). I am doing 5x5 with warm-ups, typically with 90 seconds in between working sets, and less than 30 seconds during warm ups (I use the Stronglifts app to track my progress and time). I've had no failures so far except for overhead press and had to stay at 90lbs for a while. I go MWF (no missed workouts), and then on the weekend I try and do something outdoors (park, hiking, scrambling).
My diet consists of mostly fat/protein with an okay amount of carbs on some days and no carbs other days. I drink a couple protein shakes a day (once with milk before work, once without milk after workout or for a "treat" at night on non-workout days). I also am using creatine and BCAAs because of what I've been told to do, ha.
I know I am getting stronger, just based on the weights I'm lifting and how I am feeling, but I am not noticing any fat loss. I know that my heart rate is getting up there, because on the treadmill I am 150+BPM, and while doing the 5x5 routine I do not rest enough to get out of my heart rate zone. I know this could possibly just be expecting greatness after a month and a half, but is there something I'm doing wrong or could improve my workout to lose more body fat, aside from adding hours of cardio? I do carry my load of 295lb pretty well, but I have moobs and a gut that I want to get rid of. I know that weight technically is only a number and it should be about how you look and feel, but I also know that the only 300lb / 6 foot men are linebackers in the NFL, and I'm not that. I started doing this program because I was told it was one of the best ways to build strength but that I would shed weight pretty rapidly with it, but maybe I am doing something wrong.
Really appreciate anyone and everyone who reads and replies. Thank you!
Sunday, 28 October 2018
RIP Konstantins Konstantinovs. Powerlifting legend & one of the most knowledgeable guys to ever do it.
Parenting, 6 months in: Our best buy(s)
Power Block Elite Dumbbells is 20% off
Saturday, 27 October 2018
I want to see some home runs
How to plan and progress training for sprinters on and off the track.
What do a Thanks do in our life? - 1
Friday, 26 October 2018
Former Marine is surprised by his Marine son returning home
Happy dad surprise!
Ex-marine father is surprised by the return of his marine son
Thursday, 25 October 2018
No dad's were harmed in the making of this #fallingstars... Sorry, #fallingdads post.
People were liking the Deadlift tutorial I made few weeks ago so I decided to make an easy guide for squats too. Watch it if you like! Cheers
Parenting, 6 months in: my least favourite bit
Wednesday, 24 October 2018
New to lifting and looking for advice.
Hello folks as my title suggest I'm new to Lifting/powerlifting.
Ive now been training for 2 and a half months I'm a complete novice and started on SL 5x5 with the intention of getting involved in powerlifting. I have a couple of questions that I would be very greatful if someone could help me out.
So a bit about me I'm 185cm (6.1) Starting weight of 77kg (170Lbs) Current weight 82kg (181LBs) An increase of 5kg (11Lbs) in just over 2 months.
I've not been taking any supplements or anything like that just been trying to eat well and alot more of it. Although yesterday I bought a gainer powder adding an extra 50gr of protein and around 1000 extra calories per day to my diet. Is this a good or bad move?
Secondly my routine is taking longer and longer I'm now spending up to 2 and a half hours in the gym per session training 3 days per week. It feels like a lot of time out of my day, is this to be expected or can I achieve the same or more on a different routine that takes less time?
I've by no means reached my peak in ability to lift weight on 5x5 although I reached 100kg (220lbs) squat 2 weeks ago and decided to deload and practice my form and technique as I was only reaching 3 quarters depth and it pisses me off if I don't hit that proper depth (I'm now atg) and today squatted 110kg (242lbs atg) 5x5 so I'm happy with that improvement. Anyway I've not tested 1repmax but currently at
Bench 70kg 155lbs 5x5 OHP 52kg 115lbs 5x5 Dl 120kg 265lbs 1x5 Squat 110kg 243lbs 5x5 Barbell row 72kg 159lbs 5x5 And increasing weight every session.
Is it time to move on and find another program? Or should I stick with SL 5x5 although iv not reached maximum capabilities of weight? What would you do if you were starting out again? What program would you move onto next? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Tuesday, 23 October 2018
More Than Just the Other Parent
Our son no longer wants to take a bath after months of loving it beyond description. The melt down is legendary. We've got screaming. We've got wailing. We've got a two year old boy wet noodling himself onto the floor bare naked. He grasps at cabinet doors, toilet seats, and piles of dirty clothes. He's winning and Dad's ready to lose his shit. [more]
http://thefreneticfather.com/2018/10/22/more-than-just-the-other-parent/
Post workout recovery....
Has anyone tried ice baths? I'm a 37 YO that feels aches I never even knew existed. Couple that with early arthritis, a physical job, and knee issues and you get more pops than a Saturday night in the Southside of Chicago. I want to stay away from pain killers because...duh. I remember reading somewhere that a 5 minute ice bath helps recovery and pain. Any ideas?
Monday, 22 October 2018
That's me crying the day my daughter was born.
Father cries as he reads birthday note from adopted daughter telling him she took his last name.
Sunday, 21 October 2018
Son restores dad's Ford XA Superbird after sitting wrecked for 20 yrs, his dad bought it new in '73 and his reaction is beautiful
Saturday, 20 October 2018
Strength & power training guidelines as they apply to sprinters & other explosive athletes.
In need of some nutrition advice to lean out and look better naked...
I've [41M] been doing pretty well in the gym latley. 2-3 days a week plus a Yoga day, and a softball night with the guys. Current maxes.. Back Squat #335 Deadlift #365 Bench #245 OH Shoulder Press #145 10ish strict pull-ups unbroken 45" box jump I'm 5'6" and went from 225 lbs to 195 lbs since January with minimal change in food intake, but have been stuck on 195 for about 2 months..
My strength comes from being an off and on gym goer for 20 years. A typical gym sesh is 1.5 hours 20-30 mins of cardio (stepper, elliptical, or HIIT around the rig) and then lifting. I try and mix cardio before and after lifting randomly. I'm sure I can do better, but I don't think activity is the issue.
I've been as low as 185 and as heavy as 245. I feel I want to be 165ish, but 20% body fat would be what I think I want to be at, I'm maybe around 30%? now.
I'm happy with my strength. We always want to lift more, but I don't necessarily want to grow. I'm decentish with my food intake, but will have "power" bars or cereal in the morning, eat crackers and sandwich wraps will have a couple beers during softball night, no soda, pizza/junk food once a month but I don't record or monitor what calories or grams of carbs, protein, fats I have. With 4 kids it's tough to maintain a proper diet, but with proper numbers to look at I can do it.
I'm capable of calculating that, meal prepping and whatever is needed. I want to improve my diet, but I don't want to be on a "diet". I've done whole 30, I've reduced my calories to 1750 a day in the past, not sustainable lifestyles.
What should my normal calorie intake and Macro count be? What ever it is I'm assuming I need to drop carbs for about 7-8 weeks to get to my goal weight and am willing to give up alcohol.
I would hope once I hit a goal weight I could up the carbs again, maybe have a beer a week (yes I love my beer one a week is better than 1-2 a day) and live a "normal" food life.
Any help would be appreciated.
Anyone know any pull exercises that can be done w/o equipment?
My workout for the day
- 5 minutes of yoga
- Power clean and press heavy x3 reps
- Sprint 50m
- Heavy farmers carries 3x50m
- Sprint 50m
- Power clean and press heavy x3 reps
- Sprint 50m
- Overhead barbell carries 3x50m
- Sprint 50m
- Pull weight across yard with rope x2
- 5 minutes of yoga
Using long rest times for another exercises?
Hey Guys,
i was wondering if I can start doing a second exercises inbetween the rest time of another (combining completly different muscle groups or even together working ones like chest -> triceps) I want to have long rests so that i can do as many reps as i can but then again 3-4 min of rest are really adding up and i wanna save some time.
So maybe you can tell me how this type of training is called or if there is an issues with it
Ty
Friday, 19 October 2018
Gaining strength without gaining weight
How do you gain strength without gaining weight, my lifts have been stalling for a while now. I'm 65 kg. And my lifts are: Bench press 83 kg x 3 Squat 98 kg x 5 Deadlift 107.5 x 5 Overhead Press 52.5 x 5
Humming Along to Elmo's World
It's so fascinating to see my 2 year old son watch children's shows like Sesame Street and Daniel the Tiger with such enthusiasm. The excitement for Elmo's World or Daniel's theme song is immeasurable. At just two years old will he carry these songs, sounds and characters forward into time with him? Well I know I certainly will. What I mean is, this post is hardly about being sentimental. [more]
http://thefreneticfather.com/2018/10/11/humming-along-to-elmos-world/
Thursday, 18 October 2018
They're his kids when they're at school.
Tuesday, 16 October 2018
I work 4 12hr shifts in a row then have 5 days off. What program is right for me?
I’m a Paramedic and work 2 12 hour day shifts followed by 2 12 hour night shifts followed by 5 days off. What program is right for me?
Bw 82kg 5rm kg Squat 165 Bench 97.5 Press 70 deadlift 182.5
Is doing a few sets of 1 rep pull-ups worth it?
I want to improve my ability to do pull-ups. Right now I can do 1, and I was wondering if I should just do a bunch of sets of 1 until I work up to being able to do 2, or should I use weights to target the muscles needed to do more pull-ups? Essentially, is there really much benefit to a bunch of 1 rep pullups?
Monday, 15 October 2018
Help for a beginner
Evening all! I'm looking to build my physique! I'm currently sitting at 11 to 11 and a half stone, around 6 foot tall. I have a bench, dumbbells and a bar ready to go, all the weights together will be about 70kg. What kind of exercises should I be doing to target the upper half of my body, how long for and how many days a week. Any suggestions would be great. We all gotta start somewhere!
EMSK How to dress for the cold
Made an easy guide to learn the deadlift if someone was still wondering how to do it correctly. Cheers!
Granddads can do it too
Sunday, 14 October 2018
The moment my son beat Zelda B.O.T.W. and me cry. God I love this forever.
EMSK How to start a charcoal grill
Make Your Back Pressure Superb | Back Pressure Armwrestling Training
My dad on my wedding day. The big, tough soldier sobbed into my shoulder. He is the best.
Problems breaking up workout throughout the day?
Unfortunately I don't have more than 10 minutes during the day to devote to a work out. Thoughts on doing a major muscle group movement (i.e. squats) and then later (like several hours) doing shoulder press or leg curls? Of course my preference is to have it done in one workout, but if push comes to shove, is there anything wrong with breaking workouts up throughout the day?
Saturday, 13 October 2018
EMSK How to wire a switch
Am I doing too many sets?
I've been doing a lot more sets than many guides recommend, but that's because I have the time. I figured more is better during a workout session (I still do rest days), but now I'm curious if that logic works. Should I reduce my sets? Right now, it takes me about 2 hours to do:
- 8x10 Squats
- 8x10 Barbell Bench
- 6x20 Roman Chair
- 6x20 Weighted Decline Crunch
- 4x10 Barbell Row
- 4x10 Bicep Curl
- 4x10 Shoulder Press
- 8x5 Pullups
- 7min mile run
Friday, 12 October 2018
Vibration feeling when I lift weights?
Hey, so I've started feeling something weird when I'm halfway through my routine. When I lift things, I start feeling a....the only word I can use is a "vibration" in my muscles. Maybe a tingling? It doesn't hurt, but the feeling is weird. I usually stop as soon as I feel it, because I'm afraid I will snap a tendon or something. Anyone know what it is? Could it be that I'm not eating enough or have enough water? Maybe I haven't sufficiently worked out the various secondary stabilizers to support the higher weights I now lift? Maybe I have some kind of injury that hasn't healed fully yet?
Wednesday, 10 October 2018
A recent post on my blog on How to Split Household Chores Between Parents
Design my Full Body Workout?
just hoping some fitness geniuses out there might be willing to take a shot at this, here are the dumbells I have, that's it, sparing you the long story, I do not have time to go to the gym and wont for several years, BUT, I have this, how can I get a full body workout with these? I don't own a bench and would rather not have to buy one, please be nice guys and girls
Quick question.
What exercises help with making your thighs bigger? Also I want to get a buns of steel should I separate leg and but day or can i keep them both on the same day? I've been doing the same for over a year and need some new workouts. Here are the following exercises I've been doing: deadlifts 20 reps 3 sets ,squats 15 reps 4 sets, sumo squats15 reps 4 sets, leg extensions 20 reps 3 sets , and Bulgarian split squat 15 reps 5 sets. Any advice will be much appreciated. Oh yeah also these exercises are done with 30 pounds on a bar. And 50 pounds on deadlifts.
Tuesday, 9 October 2018
Goals and Nutrition
Good day ladies and gentlemen. I recently got into strength training and have decided on committing to the starting strength program. I appreciate your willingness to read this and your time and consideration as this post turned out longer than I intended.
I am 36, 5'11 and on 9/30 I weighed 228 lbs. Today (10/9) I weigh 221. My personality is one where I go whole hog into hobbies where they transition into becoming a way of life and when I commit to my goals, I usually do achieve them. I have cut from 230 to 190 before, so I met the goal, but here I am again. I didn't have a goal to keep it off. Now, I have no intention on being fat anymore.
My questions to the group are: 1) What are some reasonable goals I should be working to attain strength wise with the barbell? I am just looking for that 1st point where I would have respectable 1rms. I know the general consensus will probably be to keep going and I'm sure once I hit those goals, I will.
2) I am looking for dietary advice as well, or maybe a goal weight for my size and what I might need to do to get there. I feel I need to cut as I sometimes get out of breath when I tie my shoes, but I also want to bulk. I am becoming more aware of nutrition as I fasted on Sunday after hearing about intermittent fasting. That was a terrible idea as my Monday workout was terrible. I got each rep, but I know that the fast affected me. It woke me up and I could hear Rippetoe yelling at me that I'm not doing the program.
My overall goal is to be strong #1, and #2 is to not be fat.
I am an accountant so I work on my butt staring at a screen for 8.5 hours a day. On top of that, I am sitting 1.25 hours driving to work and 1.25 hours home. I recently got a new job that will cut my commute down to 30 min to and from work (hr round trip).
Deadlifting when you have baby hands?
Hi all.
I'm 32 and am having a bit of trouble developing deadlift strength, due to the fact that I'm naturally skinny and weak, but also due to the fact that my hands are tiny and my grip isn't great. I've been stuck on 110kg for about 2 months now. Whenever I try to lift the weight, I can do a few reps but my baby hands just give out and I'm forced to bring it down.
I've upped my strength considerably on most other exercises, but deadlifting just doesn't happen.
Any solutions to this or is deadlifting just something for those with natural strength and grip?
How to incorporate power cleans into a full body system?
I really hate setting up for the deadlift and won’t do em for a long time till i find a gym with a jack(currently at golds).
I pretty much train the 6 big lifts 3x a week. I do however alternate between the inverted row and bb row every now and then, but thats about it.
So how do I go about incorporating this lift? Luckily i found someone who does power cleans here all the time so i got the coath(lol) part down.
Thanks guys.
My podcast episode, reading the Introduction to my book, "A Man's Guide to Newborn Babies".
EMSK: how a carbonara works
Monday, 8 October 2018
Conditioning With Strength Training.
I've noticed that my heavier sets of squats often leave me panting and out of breath. I've heard doing some conditioning can help with that a little bit. What are some good forms of conditioning I could do that wouldn't over-stress my body. Considering doing some form of HIIT.
EMSK How a carburetor works
YouTube channels for women
I’m looking for YouTube channels for barbell training specifically ran by women, for women, or aimed toward women primarily. Does anyone have any good recommendations?
Sunday, 7 October 2018
looking through r/happycryingdads in public
Head Shoulders Knees & Toes | Cartoons for Kids and Baby Songs by Kachy TV
Friday, 5 October 2018
Forearm Pain
I've been training consistently for about 10 months now and I'm developing some pretty bad pain in my forearms, with the pain worse in the left arm. In the past, I've had the same pain, which has limited my biceps training. This time around, I've tried to strengthen my forearms while working through some of the pain. It has mostly worked - I've never been able to develop my biceps this much in the past - but it's starting to catch up with me.
No one I've ever described this pain to knows what it is. When I google arm pain from weight lifting, everything talks about wrist and elbow pain. This is almost directly halfway up the forearm, mostly on the outside. While lifting, it hurts a little bit, but the pain is worst when releasing tension (putting the weight down). The pain is worse with a supinated grip than a neutral one.
It has gotten so bad that I've taken about 2 weeks off, hoping it would go away. I've been getting pain from picking up normal objects (backpack, moving a chair, etc). Has anyone experienced this pain? Any advice?
EMSK How to use a torque wrench
Low bar squat bar position
Hi,does anyone have any tips for keeping the bar in the proper position during a low bar squat? I find after 2 or 3 reps the bar has moved out of position on my delts especially my left rear delt. Things usually get uncomfortable then with some of the weight shifting on to my wrists. Thanks
EMSK what the SJWs mean by "Toxic Masculinity:
Hi again, /r/everymanshouldknow. I wrote up a short(ish) discussion about a term I've seen cause no shortage of headaches recently. Give it a read if you're bored or interested. Hopefully I can shed some light on it and bring someone a bit closer to reconciliation.
Top Edit: I'm getting a surprising amount of hate for a message that's basically "let people live their lives." Most of the criticisms I've seen assert verbatim something I said further down in this post. If its existence pisses you off, try reading it. You might be surprised.
Every Man Should Know what the SJWs mean by "Toxic Masculinity"
If you’ve been active on the Internet in the last two years, you’ve probably heard the term “toxic masculinity.”
If you’re someone who would self-describe as “woke,” you or one of your friends has probably used it recently. If that term makes you laugh, you have probably felt scorned or attacked by someone trying to use that word to describe a part of your identity.
Depending on who you ask, “toxic masculinity” can describe anything from an indictment of society’s crimes against men to a vicious attack against men for the crime of being male. Because people are different and words are funny, any of these interpretations might be the intended one depending on who's using it.
Like it or not, there’s a conversation going on about this term. There are factions at war, as they always are, trying to claim this powerful rhetorical device for their own means. I can’t claim to speak for everyone, or for anyone but myself. But for anyone who is concerned about this term, its use, or the struggle it purports to describe, I thought a little perspective might help.
I’d like to address what toxic masculinity is by refuting what it isn’t, one point at a time.
Toxic masculinity isn’t an attack on men.
I won’t try to deny that some people want to make it one, but that’s not what the term means. Toxic masculinity doesn’t mean that masculine traits are toxic. It’s meant to acknowledge that some are, and to describe those. If you see a newspaper article about toxic berries, you’re going to want to know which berries are toxic, not just avoid berries altogether, right? It’s the same with toxic masculinity.
Toxic masculinity is not all behavior typical or unique to men. It is not a vituperation against love of outdoorsmanship, a tendency toward athleticism, a desire to protect, or a love of making things with our hands. It's not an assault on the responsibilities or pride that we might claim as part of our gender identity.
In short, toxic masculinity does not claim that being a man or loving things we attribute to being manly is a sin.
Toxic masculinity is an admission that some of our ideas of masculinity hurt men and women.
Any society is comprised of a set of assumptions about the people that live in it. Those assumptions form a common ground that we can start with when interacting with others, so that we don’t have to remake the wheel every time we begin a new interaction. Naturally, not all such assumptions are going to be true; some of them might inherently alienate outliers and make it hard for them to function.
The supposition of toxic masculinity is that some of our ideas of what defines a man and what a man is expected to do are inherently harmful to men, especially men who don’t necessarily naturally meet those assumptions. Some of our ideas will be inherently innocuous, but sometimes our insistence upon them, our attempts to enforce them, our punishments for eschewing them, our eagerness to meet them, or the act of pursuing them to their natural conclusions can make life unnecessarily difficult for men and women. Often toxic masculinity sticks men between a rock and a hard place, demanding them to fulfill two mutually exclusive requirements.
Toxic masculinity is when we tell our boys that they should be ashamed of displaying any emotion but anger or lust. It’s when we shame men for putting effort into their appearance or for not wanting sex. Toxic masculinity is when we attack men for not enjoying sports or camping. It’s when we assume that men can’t be raped because all men are always willing. It’s when we aren’t supposed to take “no” for an answer when a woman doesn’t want to date us, but being persistent can easily make women feel unsafe. It’s when a woman’s marital infidelity is automatically assumed to be the fault of her husband, making him a cuckold. It’s when a mom staying home is parenting, but for a dad it it’s babysitting.
Toxic masculinity is when a single mom taking her baby out is a hero, but a dad is suspicious. It’s when women expect you to pay for their meals on the first date, and when your friends shame you because she wouldn’t let you pay. It’s the assumption that men are disposable in matters of war and crisis, that any number of men dying for any number of women is expected behavior. It’s when you’re a pussy for letting a woman beat you, but you’re a monster if you hit her back. It’s when you have to be the strong one through grief and crisis, and leaning on someone for support is a sign of weakness. It's the little voice in the back of your head that's keeping you from telling your friends you're not okay.
Toxic masculinity is not the same everywhere. It differs like every cultural norm.
Toxic masculinity is a set of cultural norms that hurt men. Not all of the things I’ve mentioned will be true everywhere. Between countries, people groups, religions, families, and every other vehicle of culture, our ideas of manhood and thus the ones that are toxic will be different. Just because you don’t struggle with toxic masculinity doesn’t mean no one does, and just because you struggle in one way doesn’t mean that others haven’t figured it out. Perhaps most importantly, the same standard that is toxic in one community might be innocuous in another because of a lack of a counter-standard to create one of those catch-22 scenarios.
Toxic masculinity hurts men, too.
Make no mistake, women are often victims of toxic masculinity, especially trans women. In many subcultures, men are expected on some level to be violent, aggressive, and dominant. In many cases, our ideas of a “real man” demand that we not take “no” for an answer, and that we doggedly pursue what we want until we get it. Reckless pursuit of these ideals often turns our young men into victimizers and people who are dangerous to be around. Thus women are victims of toxic masculinity, but they’re not the only ones.
As previously illustrated, men are major victims, if not the primary victims, of toxic masculinity. We are expected to live up to and enforce double standards that are mutually exclusive to one another; depending on our mix of subcultures, there is no way to win. Toxic masculinity often results in less outdoorsy, more sensitive men being persecuted and looked down upon, while others stretch themselves out trying to reach both ends of an impossible double standard.
Toxic masculinity isn’t only enforced by women; it is often enforced by men.
My previous examples ought to illustrate this just fine, but I think it’s worth stating clearly that toxic masculinity isn’t something that’s just done by women to men. Like any societal standard, good or ill, our ideas of masculinity are assimilated by the people they purport to define, and with them the toxic elements. In a very real and demonstrable way, men at large are responsible for perpetuating and enforcing the ideas that hurt us.
Fighting toxic masculinity doesn’t mean making men and women indistinguishable; it means celebrating differences and individuality while letting people live their own lives.
A lot of people who don’t understand the idea of toxic masculinity suppose that those who wish to abolish it would see men and women totally indistinguishable from one another; that they want to eliminate every distinguishing factor between the sexes. With few exceptions, this isn’t the case. As in my first point, because the idea of toxic masculinity isn’t an attack on all facets of manhood, the solution to it isn’t abolishing manhood altogether. Rather, the solution is to recognize that it's okay to have an opinion of what manliness is, and that not living up to that isn't a bad thing.
The answer to toxic masculinity isn’t getting rid of masculinity, but rather acknowledging as a society that masculinity is neither inherently good or bad, and that it is only one of many legitimate options. In this vision of a society that has conquered toxic masculinity, wood-chopping, barrel-chested warrior men who sip whiskey and always have a woman on their arms are looked at as being just as valid as willowy men who get manicures, work desk jobs, and aren’t terribly interested in dating supermodels.
In short, the key to defeating toxic masculinity lies not in eliminating the idea of manliness, but in accepting that not living up to that idea is a valid and respectable way to live your life.
Good program or weekly routine for pure strength training?
What is a good program or weekly routine for just focusing on strength training? Any links help. Thank you!
Happy Crying Dads, Seeing Their Daughters In Wedding Dresses For The First Time
Thursday, 4 October 2018
Happy crying brothers take dad's place
Wednesday, 3 October 2018
Me with my real grandson
Programs for bjj
Is there any 531 type programs for Jiu-Jitsu out there? Or would the standard be you best bet?