What are peoples opinions of this for the general population? I feel it would be beneficial but would love to hear what others think.
Friday, 30 September 2016
EMSKR: How to introduce people?
Either if its introducing your S.O. to your family and friends or introducing your friend to a group of people on a party where he/she knows nobody. Anyone got a good article or maybe some personal advices on how to introduce people without acting cringy?
Thursday, 29 September 2016
EMSK: 10 Psychological Tricks to get a girl to like you (Ethically)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxK_H-IhC4g
EMSKR: Hiding under-eye darkness and bags
So my eyes are pretty puffy and dark all the time, it's probably genes but I want to atleast hide it :/
[EMSK] Will a robot replace you? The new world is for the adaptive[video]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PrvsOpT0r0&feature=gp-n-y&google_comment_id=z13ghxhxtkf0g1s4v04ce3jwrzjnzbpjz24
Wednesday, 28 September 2016
EMSK How to turn his pants into a lightweight backpack in emergency case
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ENCENhiC33c
EMSK: Don't Voluntarily Take On Other People's Anxiety, If You Can Avoid It
This caught my attention, It's somenthing that I've been doing for some time now.
I have my own problems to deal with and they need to be dealt with first, thank you. You don't have to be blunt with people, but you have to make sure they know that you have your priorities. Of couse, some people don't take it very well, it happens.
EMSKR: Car Tires
I've never had to buy tired before but as my car is approaching 80,000 miles I should be getting new tires soon. What are my options and what should I look for?
EMSKR: Low Libido Issues
Hey guys! Long time lurker love this subreddit.
My better half and I have been together for almost 6 months now. Although the sex is average I constantly have had the urge not to even bother being intamate. This has been going on not only since the start of our relationship but from my previous relationship as well.
The hard part is she feels like its her. I know myself that its not but no matter how much you say that the other person always feels badly obviously. I don't want to turn to chemical drugs like Viagra and such. I would very much rather something organic or ideas to improve things.
I no longer smoke we both quit smoking a month ago. I am curious if that was the cause to a low sex drive? If so how long will it take to recover if at all?
Men I need your advice! Links? Heath / meal plans? What works for you?
Tuesday, 27 September 2016
Do I have a good foundation?
Ok I'm a sophomore in high school that plays soccer
I'm tall and skinny 5,9" maybe
I only weigh like 125-130
So this is my first year lifting and obviously given I'm tall and skinny I don't lift much in my strength class at school but I do what I can. Before a workout I take c4 pre-workout and after I take muscle milk. My diet it fine so my question is really am I setup right now to be gaining muscle mass and strength. My strength class is just what you'd expect upper lower body workouts with max days, and workout with varying percentage of weight. So I'm trying my best in this class but I don't lift a lot, so with what I'm taking right now and lifting what I can am I set up good to gain muscle mass and strength? Going further into my diet I know my weight is low for my height I just have a really fast metabolism.
Monday, 26 September 2016
Sunday, 25 September 2016
Saturday, 24 September 2016
Percentage based programming questions?
I have some questions regarding percentage max programming. I recently started considering some percentage based programming and I’m kind of confused. Just for reference, I’m 150 lbs, ~225/130/265 maxes and 5 feet 11. I can definitely get much more muscle mass and much more strength.
First off, wouldn’t linear progression just be better for me right now? Assuming I eat and rest enough. When doing percentages, is that of my current max or of what I want my max to be at the end of the cycle?
I ask because this routine has me doing 2-3 reps of 90% near the end after 10 weeks and if we take current max of say, deadlift, that would be 2 x 238.5, which I can already do, and if it was of a projected max, then how much should I be aiming for? I ask because it just seems too easy for me to actually be a workout.
Friday, 23 September 2016
EMSKR: How to prevent yourself from profusely sweating and stay comfortable in professional attire on a warm day?
Personally, it has to be on the chillier side in order for me to be comfortable in a suit (or even only a button up.) The need to wear at least two or three layers to look professional definitely doesn't help either. So how do you do it?
Need to build strength for my job
Hey all,
I got a job that requires a lot of lifting. I used be chubbier, and more muscular, and had a lot of strength. However, I lost most of my muscle mass when I lost all my weight (I went from almost 200 pounds, to 130 and I'm 5'4. I lost the weight through cardio and dieting. I stopped weight training during that period).
Now I need to build strength to lift and swing heavy bags. What are the best workouts for that?
Thanks so much!
EMSK: Mentorship by Robert Greene (Mastery Chapter Review)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XFne_rkWMzc
Thursday, 22 September 2016
EMSK: How to make people to like you regardless of who you are
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dSctp-nB2KY&feature=gp-n-y&google_comment_id=z12jz1rporefhl10q23szdhozpb0gj4ng
[EMSK REQUEST]: If you have 3 job interviews lined up, and get offered a job at the 1st one, what can you say to the person making the offer that will let you delay accepting, so you can see if the next interview gives you a better offer, without resulting in this offer being pulled off the table?
Of course this is perhaps too optimistic, but let's engage in a hypothetical situation wherein job openings are abundant, and a hypothetical redditor may have very real marketable skills that result in not only the possibility of employment, but the potential for multiple offers of employment from interviewers.
What I'm wondering is how it might be possible to "hold off" on accepting a job offer during the initial interview, if you have been offered the job on the spot, because you want to see if you'll get a better offer (more money, better hours, better benefits) from another company for which you also have locked in an interview.
It seems like a minor Catch 22 to me. You can't find out how good the second offer might be unless you go to the second interview, which would mean you'd have to won't sign on to the company giving you the first offer.
But if you get an offer, and say "I need to think about it" so that you can go to that next interview, isn't there a chance they will just immediately rescind the offer, or give it to the next person in line for an interview?
Meanwhile you could end up going to the second job interview, which may actually be a better job, but fail to get hired. And then it might be too late to go back and take the first company up on their offer, since you have sort of burnt that bridge.
So what do people do in this situation? Skilled and qualified and talented people of Reddit who have previously had multiple job interviews lined up at once, or multiple people hoping to hire you: how do you manage to "hold off" on accepting an initial job offer so you can look at other options, without subsequently losing that job offer?
[X-POST from LPT]
EMSK The Art of sabrage: how to open a bottle of Champagne with a knife
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ClD_-UBaIyI
Online fitness buddy? 27F
Hey, I've started powerlifting and looking to see if anyone else has recently started and wants to follow each others progress online etc? Someone to motivate each other and bounce ideas? Send me a pm or reply?
:)
Wednesday, 21 September 2016
EMSK: Gary Vaynerchuk's Top 10 Rules For Success (@garyvee)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vqJrJ8cxEQ
Please critique my routine
Hi there,
I've been doing 5x5 for months, and I haven't noticed physical improvements. Sure, I can squat more than ever before, but I think I've actually gained weight for these past few months, and my body looks pretty much the same. It's a little disappointing after all this work, especially when considering my old push pull routine that was criticized by people here on reddit a few months back.
Here is my new routine:
Monday PULL Heavy with increase of 5lb each week:
Barbell Curl 5x3 Back Row 5X3 Dead Lift 5x3 Upright Barbell Row 5x3 Goblin Squat 5x5
Tuesday Run
Wednesday Push with increase of 5lb each week:
Lateral Raises 5x3 Arnold Press 5x3 Bench Press 5x3 Kettle Bell Swing 5x5
Thursday Run
Friday alternate between push and pull each week, but dropping the weight and doubling the reps.
Saturday or Sunday, run.
Please let me know if this is a good idea. I found this to be far more efficient than the 5x5 I was doing, even though I guess I was getting stronger before.
EDIT: I'm sorry if this looks a little cluttered. I don't know why it formats like this.
I had an idea
I'm an average guy. 5'9" and 200lbs. I used to lift seriously, but stopped when I ran out of weight and since then I've just maintained. My cardio is shite, but I'm a great sprinter and I can still walk 12 miles in 2 hours unencumbered(my calves are the only thing that still look good after 2 years of not lifting seriously).
Basically, I want to see what my absolute maximum output is at my current state(max bench, deadlift, squat. fastest sprint, best 2 mile run, etc.) and then see what the absolute max I can attain as an average male in his 20s without supplements. Not just "I can't get any bigger, time to take supplements" but my actual maximum strength, stamina, and speed as a human male. Obviously other people would have different results, but it seems like it would be a fun long term experiment, while also getting me back in shape. And if other people join in, we could actually get some data going.
To be clear, I'm not worried about bodybuilding. I'm not against supplements. I just want to see what my natural barrier is. Even if I'm the exact opposite of aesthetic, the results are what I care about.
So any tips, warnings, experience, links, etc. would be nice. As well as just criticism like "you're an idiot this is dumb."
Tuesday, 20 September 2016
EMSK: What Isolating Incidents are and how they Handicap Growth - 6 Morning Miracles Steps
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pv7zbiLVBQw
Training but now on a 'starvation diet'. What do?
I'm a pretty small girl, 5'2, 48kg, I was 'skinny fat' and a year ago started strength training, lifting weights, eating a lot etc. Very, very little cardio (the advice of my physio, I have joint problems & it was more important I gained muscle). Got some good muscle definition as a result on my abs, biceps, triceps, back, butt, felt pretty great about my progress and didn't look 'skinny fat' anymore, I looked quite toned. However I was still probably only eating at maintenance level as I found it hard to get much more calories so I guess it was all newbie gains.
Then a month ago I left to go backpacking in hostels on my own- been very stressed, not being able to sleep in the hostels, and got food poisoning pretty much immediately. The stress of travel, exhaustion has meant I've been doing no strength training at all. Since then I've been completely paranoid about getting sick again which has led to me eating very little. I have a pedometer and for the past month at minimum I've been walking over 5 hours each day, burning over 2000 calories at daily maintenance, and I've counted my calories to be on average 1000, even less on some days. I'm already looking skinny fat again and incredibly weak, I can't lift my 7kg suitcase, my body and joints ache.
I'm pretty distraught that I worked so hard for a year for it to all be undone so quickly, and for me to be so afraid of food poisoning that I feel sick to take a bite of a meal. I still have a month of travel left.
My question is, considering I'm so stressed, not sleeping, not eating, way too much cardio, highly strung- is there a point to me trying to do any strength training while I'm traveling? Will it be even worse for my shrinking starving muscles to do more damage to them while not eating enough to repair them? Doing less cardio isn't an option because of the nature of my travels... Should I just wait it out and continue like this until I get home, and then try to get back into lifting weights once I've sorted out the food issue and gotten some rest? Or would doing strength training mean I Could mitigate some of the muscle loss?
Sorry for the long post, hopefully I can get some advice :(
Benching 455lbs but can't seem to increase
I am 6'0" 205lbs and I have no idea how to further increase my bench. I maxed out at 455lbs. I usually lead up to a single every chest day. I start with 135lbs then gradually move up to 225lbs, 315lbs, 365lbs, 405lbs, 425lbs, 445lbs, and then try for 460lbs but am never successful. Can someone give me any tips to keep increasing my bench max?
EMSK: How To Open Up With Friends And Family [xpost from /r/socialskills]
An interesting thing often happens when you start to open up to people...
You get to a point where you feel reasonably comfortable opening up to new people. You feel comfortable with them because they don’t know what you were like before.
But when you’re with your friends and family, who’ve known you for a long time, things are different.
Talking with your friends and family brings you right back to your old socially anxious self.
And you start to feel like a fraud.
You start to feel like you’re not good enough again.
You close up and hide your feelings. And there’s a good reason why.
You’ve built your relationships with your friends and family as a different person. As someone who doesn’t open up and share themselves.
You’re worried that they’ll think, “This isn’t what you’re like. Who are you? I know what you’re like: socially anxious, reserved, quiet, etc."
You don’t want to risk losing your relationships with your friends and family by suddenly opening up to them. You don’t want to make them uncomfortable. You don’t want to lose your identity.
You might even think that they don’t want to open up with you.
Can you relate?
Why Is It So Difficult To Open Up With Friends And Family?
These are the main reasons why we're scared to open up with family and friends:
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Environmental relapse
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It’s too late
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They won’t understand me
Perhaps looking at these ideas a little deeper will help us work out what the heck we should do in these situations. Below are some emails I got from my readers about it.
Idea 1 - Environmental relapse
M says: "While I'm an introvert, I’ve become totally comfortable with meeting strangers and having conversations. But for the last 10 days since coming home to my parents’ place I’ve done nothing!
[A different] M says: "It's so easy to sell myself as a charismatic and charming person to new people. But when I get back to the family apartment, old M is on display: little empathy, monotonous voice."
[Yet another] M says: “I've lost 50 lbs and gotten a lot more social, but I just can't seem to break free of my quiet and awkward self at home! It's actually affecting my new-found confidence. I can't think of a solution other than to move out."
Seems like this issue is particularly common among people whose names being with M… so try changing your name first, then keep reading if that doesn’t work ;)
The thing with environmental relapse is this: it’s not simply being in a certain place that triggers the relapse. It’s the routines that you adopt when you’re in that environment that turn you into a less-than-optimal version of yourself.
When you visit your parents, what do you do that’s the same as when you were a kid?
What do you do that’s different to your normal life?
Do you wash the dishes? Or do you let someone else do them?
Do you sit on the couch and watch TV?
Do you cook for everyone?
Do you talk in a monotonous voice?
Do you organise family activities? Board games? Whatever?
Do you bring them gifts?
Do you lead the conversation at dinner?
Do you constantly check your phone or computer?
If you act the same way you always have, you’ll be treated the same way you always have.
You’ll feel like a fraud when you try to open up because, as far as they can see through your actions, you’re still the same as you always were.
But if, all of a sudden, you start mowing the lawn without being asked (for instance)… well shit, something’s changed. Pete is not Little Pete anymore. Your parents will expect you to be different, because they see a difference in your actions.
So when you open up to them now, after changing your actions, they'll be eager to learn who you’ve become as a person.
You might meet some resistance though, because sometimes parents don’t want the relationship to change.
Mum might make fun of your efforts to cook dinner and suggest that you let her do it. That’s her way of telling you she’s scared of losing her little boy/girl.
If you give in, things will go back to the way they were. If you stick to your guns and change your actions, your parents will see you differently.
Idea 2 - It’s too late
J says: "I think what stops me opening up is a feeling that my social anxiety and poor social skills have 'botched' the relationship at the beginning. We didn't hit it off early on in conversations and the interactions were awkward. After this, there's a pervasive feeling in my psychology that there's no way back, and I find it difficult not to interact defensively and closed."
R says: “I've been learning Japanese for about 1.5 years now and my family still doesn't know. I was always afraid of rejection or resistance because it’s a more obscure and geeky language to most people where I live, so I kept it secret. Now it has kind of grown out of control."
If you’re at this point you’ve probably spent so much time thinking “It’s too late to open up”, that you’ve ingrained that belief pretty deeply. It’s going to be really difficult to push that belief out of the way and say something real to this person.
Perhaps you’ve got something you want to share with them, but you’ve kept it to yourself for so long that saying it now would feel kind of like an admission of guilt. Like you’ve done something bad by not opening up to them.
And because you feel like that you can’t figure out a way to say it without sounding guilty.
And if you sound guilty then they’re going to think you ARE guilty.
So what do you do?
You need a wedge to help you get into the cracks. To create an opening in your deep-seated belief that “It’s too late to open up”.
Here’s your wedge.
Ask them something like:
Do you feel like you’ve changed in the past (length of time)?
Or...
Do you feel like people see you differently than they did (length of time) ago?
If they hesitate to answer meaningfully… that’s your opening to share first. If they do answer wholeheartedly… that’s your opening to share second.
It’s easier to open up with them now because you’re not blind siding them with what seems like an admission of guilt. Instead you’re bringing up the topic of change. Then you're opening up because it relates to the topic: that something about you has changed.
Idea 3 - They won’t understand me
M says: "I suspect my old friends can't handle the new me.”
K says: “I fear that my parents will find some way to blame themselves for my anxiety because of the way they raised me."
[Another] K says: “They are unapologetically mean when I open up. They hate that I usually have a different opinion so, at least for family, I stick to things like the weather."
Firstly, let’s assume that these fears are indeed rational and not just in your head. In that case this issue comes down to one of two things. Either...
1) Opening up to this particular person is actually pointless,
or
2) You’re miscommunicating with each other.
Some people are just vampires. You’ve met them, right? Every time you speak with them they make you feel worse.
Perhaps they have a heart of gold buried inside somewhere… but it’s buried so deep that it’s really not worth your effort to dig for it. And it’s not your job to either. So go dig elsewhere.
Sometimes though, we can be too quick to assume that someone’s a vampire.
As you get better at communicating your thoughts and feelings clearly, you find that you meet less vampires. Because the problem was often actually your communication skills.
If you haven’t practised improving the way you communicate with others, to improve the reactions you get, then you’re bound to have negative interactions more frequently.
Here’s a simple example of miscommunication:
Lisa: I feel anxious.
Carl: Why do you feel anxious?
Lisa: Because there are so many people around.
Carl: Why do you get anxious around people?
Lisa: Oh I’ll be alright.
Carl is trying to understand Lisa and get her to open up. But the way he phrases his questions makes Lisa feel like he believes there’s something wrong with her. She senses this and decides that Carl might be a vampire, so she closes down.
What if instead the conversation went like this:
Carl: What’s making you feel anxious?
Lisa: It’s all these people.
Carl: Yeah there are a lot of people. Is there anything in particular that you’re anxious about?
Lisa: I don’t know how to start a conversation. How do you do it?
Again Carl is trying to understand Lisa, and he’s asking similar questions, but his phrasing this time makes her comfortable enough to open up.
It’s not just the way you convey your messages either. It’s about recognising how the other person is interpreting your messages, and making sure you’re interpreting <em>their</em> messages correctly.
You can learn these skills and use them to help people understand your opinion instead of attacking it.
To help people hear where you’re coming from, instead of jumping to their own conclusions.
To disagree with people, to be different, and still remain open with each other.
Small Steps Will Get You There
When it comes to opening up with family and friends, you don’t have to jump off a cliff with them right away. Take small steps and see what happens.
Picture yourself opening up from the other person’s perspective. Actually see yourself opening up from their eyes. How would they feel if you were the first one to do it? Appreciative? Loving?
And about the people who don’t seem to want to open up with you... Picture THAT from their perspective. What’s stopping them from opening up? Is it the same fear that you experience?
Underneath it all, do they actually share your desire to open up?
Monday, 19 September 2016
EMSK that the Better Business Bureau is not a govt agency
They're basically just like Yelp before the Internet existed. They don't have any legal power or authority theyre just a nonprofit.
EMSK: It's okay to hold in your feelings - Emotional Intelligence Explained
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26N1XjfFwrE
EVERYDAY IS ARM DAY
https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=ggolcV7VYbM&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D0alhC6aBaeQ%26feature%3Dshare
Sunday, 18 September 2016
[EMSK] The virtue of Non-Attachment | Why you should embrace change [video]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TJYtsw3Ym8
EMSK: A cool breakdown on how to be like Donald Trump (in a good way)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0FvmXhKtZtQ
Saturday, 17 September 2016
Friday, 16 September 2016
EMSK: Life's Task by Robert Green Mastery (Author of 48 Laws of Power and the 50th Law)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJ4Am0q4ad8
Thursday, 15 September 2016
[Request] EMSKR: What do I do once I've submitted my résumé to a potential employer?
As stated in the title, I'm looking for advice on follow up such as questions to ask, how long to wait, and anything else you all can think of. Thank you it is much appreciated!
EMSK: How To Know If A Woman Likes You – from a female perspective
Believe it or not but you might have missed many opportunities with cute girls just because you didn’t notice the subtle signals they gave you. Or you didn’t believe you’re good enough to attract them. If a woman is into you, she will show you her attraction through certain behavior and body language. Most men are clueless about these signals. But actually, it is quite easy to interpret them.
Women Give You Signals
Most women enjoy being looked at by an interesting man. It gives us confirmation that all the work that went into looking good paid off. But most women tend to ignore their feelings and look away immediately. This has nothing to do with disinterest! We also feel uncertain when meeting someone interesting. And we also want to avoid coming across as easy at all costs.
An interested woman will give you feedback in the form of behavioral changes – subtle cues to communicate with you on a non-verbal level. Every girl behaves differently. Keep an eye on her and watch her movements and gesticulations. But don’t stare at her! A soft gaze will give you all the information you need.
Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of the clearest signs she can give you.
It doesn’t matter where you are. Maybe you are at a club, in a library, or even at the supermarket. If she is looking you directly in the eyes, she wants to get to know you.
Use eye contact to flirt with women! If you notice that a woman is looking you directly in the eyes, do the same for a few seconds. Then look away and try to find her eye-contact again a little bit later.
When you look at her, try to smile with your eyes. It’s actually quite easy. Bring yourself in a positive mood. Think about her, how her voice or her giggling will sound. How her skin feels like, how she smells or even how her lips will feel.
Such feelings will make you more comfortable and you’ll be able to express your sexuality better. Repeat finding her eye-contact for three or four times.
Meanwhile, enjoy the situation and have fun! Eye-contact builds a connection between two people without talking. With this technique, you build up tension. Both of you will feel it. After the third or fourth time, you should smile at her. If she smiles back – go over to her immediately!
Mouth
If she knows you can see her, she might use a straw to drink her cocktail. Or she licks her lips or just bites her bottom lip. All of these are signs that she is flirting with you.
Laughing
When she is talking a lot, she feels good by your side. Laughing is also a clear sign! If a woman likes a man, she tends to laugh more and louder than usually. Everything is funny, whether you are joking or not.
Playing With Her Hair
All of you have seen this before: A woman is talking to a man and twirls her hair constantly.
But there are other variations of playing with hair as well.
Some women always shake their head a little. Some run their fingers through their hair or try to look more mysterious by ruffling their hair. (creating an ‘out of bed’ look) All of these variations have the same meaning. She likes you!
Positioning And Touching
Pay attention to her position. Interested women want to be closer to you. Her whole body will turn towards you so she can see and hear you better. When you sit at a table with her she will often sit with her elbows on the table holding up her head to be nearer.
When you stand at the bar she wants to be as close as possible. Every message you give her, or she is giving you, will be the perfect opportunity for her to stand closer to you.
A woman who is interested ignores personal space. She wants physical contact! With physical contact I mean short touches or incidental contacts on your arm or shoulder. If she always finds a reason to touch you, it’s a sure sign she is into you.
Nervousness
Nervousness is another clear sign.
Usually, people need an outlet for their nervousness. In most cases that means they do stuff with their hands. She could be playing with a lighter, the coaster, a straw, or even a napkin.
For example, a friend of mine turns into a chain smoker when she is having a nice date with a man she likes. Normally she just smokes two or three cigarettes a day.
Fake Helplessness
Sometimes, women do funny things and get creative to get what they want.
All of you guys have this protective instinct. Some of you more, some of you less. But most guys react when a girl seems helpless. Imagine her standing at the bar wanting to get a drink. The waiter didn’t see her and she seems frustrated.
Other examples:
- She can´t seem to find her jacket in the wardrobe. She searches and searches, but her jacket is missing. Or she finds her jacket, but she is too short to get it.
- She wants to smoke a cigarette, but her lighter won’t work. She tries and tries, but it just won’t light.
- She is searching for something in her pocket but can’t find it.
In all of these situations, we seem helpless, or in other words: we want to seem helpless!
The examples above are all things that I, or friends of mine, did to get in contact with men.
You can be certain, that she is just playing clumsy or helpless when you already had eye-contact several times or talked to each other before.
All of this will happen near you so she can be sure you see her acting all helpless. Go over and “help her”! Then start a conversation.
What To Do After She Shows Interest?
Don’t be afraid or nervous. You have seen that she is interested in talking to you! Approach her immediately!
It doesn’t matter if she is alone or with friends. Mostly, her friends will find an excuse to leave, or she will distance herself from them – with you.
Practice, Practice, Practice
From now on watch out for all the signals we try to give you guys. It’s not a big deal if you misinterpret signs, especially if it’s a single sign. You will become much better over time and a previously unknown world will unfold in front of you! Just don’t be afraid of the setbacks in the beginning. Always remember: the difference between a romantically successful man and an unsuccessful one is that the successful man has been rejected a lot and has learned from it! Believe me, no one is born a master!
EMSK: How To Make Money Doing What You Love - London Real Academy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5VzXFhL74k
Wednesday, 14 September 2016
Bulking and Cutting in the same week?
So it's hard to gain muscle at a caloric deficit. It's hard to lose fat at a caloric surplus. Can you bulk and cut in a single week?
So I've recently lost a significant amount of weight using intermittent fasting (2x 24hour fast a week for about 6 months). I'm a 37 year old male and went from 240 to 185. Now I am at a point where I would like to gain some strength but don't really want to gain back a lot of fat.
I recently started stronglifts 5x5 (two weeks in) and was thinking that if I don't give myself some extra calories I'm going to hit plateaus really quickly on this program.
So what I'm thinking of trying is lifting MWF and eating say 3000 calories Monday - Friday (surplus). Then I will have breakfast Saturday morning and then fast (deficit) until Monday morning. I've done 48 hour fasts on several occasions without issues in the past. My only concern is that the fasting will affect my recovery over the weekend and I will still end up hitting plateaus too quickly.
Has anyone tried anything like this? Any thoughts?
EMSK: Suicide and silence: why depressed men are dying for somebody to talk to
http://ift.tt/1XtEGCd
EMSKR: How to test drive a car (or what to look/listen for).
I'll be in the market for a car soon. I've bought a few cars/bikes before, but never really knew what I am supposed to be looking/listening for on the test drive. Does it run? Yes. Does it smoke? No. Does it make a funny noise? Nope. Done. Thanks.
Tuesday, 13 September 2016
Is it too late for novice strength gains?
So I have been doing bodybuilding style workouts off and on for 3 years now and I have a very good physique. However, I have never trained for strength so I'm weak as fuck.
I'm wondering, can I still make big jumps in strength because I haven't really stressed my CNS much because of my high volume and low intensity workouts? My 5RM are 180 lb for bench, 265 lb for deadlift, and 205 lb for squat.
EMSKR: got a new wet/dry electric shaver for my birthday. No experience using one, looking for best skin care and pro tips.
I've never used an electric shaver before. I grew up using a common 3-5 blade razor throughout my military career. Recently, I received a Braun series 9 9095cc and am strongly considering dumping the stick razor for this amazing piece of machinery since I don't have to shave everyday anymore. I'm looking for the best before/after skin care products, tips from you pros and if you recommended using this in dry or wet mode. If wet, what's the best product I can use during my shave?
Monday, 12 September 2016
[EMSK] The Law Of Averages - How To Be Successful In Anything You Do
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_pGQBdX55Y
Help me dunk.
I thought I'd ask the community for some help on developing the musculature needed for dunking.
I'm 6'4", 200lbs, athletic, fit, etc. But I'm still inches away from being able to dunk (one or two hands). What kind of training should I be doing to develop the muscles used in running or stationary jumping.
Thanks for any insight!
Strength training for work
Hi guys! I'm not sure this is the subreddit to post to, but I thought I'd give it a shot. I've recently started working/apprenticing as a CNC machinist. One of the tasks I will eventually have to do is swap out great big heavy tools in awkward positions (bending to the side, over my head and such). The company took a bit of a chance hiring me and I wanna prove to be the right choice. Thing is I'm a girl. A girl has never been employed in such a position at the company. And I keep hearing all day every day from all the big, burly guys that a girl can't cut it. So I wanted to ask for advice, if that's okay. How do I, being a fairly couch-potato-y person up until two months ago, get strong efficiently? Thanks!
EMSK: How To Open Up [xpost from /r/socialskills]
You want to talk about real stuff, so you ask people serious questions like “Hey, what do you want to do with your life?”
You’re genuinely interested in their response. You want to hear their big ideas and have a meaningful discussion about them.
But in response to your question they always seem to make a joke or give you a generic, superficial response.
If this happens to you a lot, there’s a simple reason: you get what you give.
They’re deflecting your serious questions because they don’t know that you’re not going to judge them. That you’re in the same boat they are. That you have similar doubts, hopes and questions about life.
They don’t know because you haven’t communicated it. It seems to them like you just want to take. Like you just want them to open up to you without giving them anything in return.
DO PEOPLE EVEN WANT TO OPEN UP?
If you’ve experienced this for a while it can start to feel like nobody wants to know you. Like maybe you should just isolate yourself and play video games or write music in your tower all day… because maybe you’re just not good with people.
You lose motivation for your hobbies. You lose your drive, because you feel like you’re the only one out there who wants to talk about real stuff.
But this couldn’t be further from the truth. In my personal experience just about everyone wants to talk about real stuff. There are 2 million people who read Mark Manson (one of the biggest blogs I know), and all he talks about is “real stuff”.
The only thing is everyone’s scared of opening up first.
WHY SHOULD THE OTHER PERSON OPEN UP FIRST?
If I’m not deliberately trying to connect with you then why would I respond to your question with a genuine, heartfelt answer that leaves me open to your judgement, and potential rejection? Why would anyone?
Even if I did want to connect with you the risk might still be too great if you haven’t already opened up to me first.
Think about your own responses to the serious questions that people ask you. Do you go deep first?
No?
Then you’re communicating that you’re closed off to doing so. They’re interpreting your response that way and responding appropriately — with safe/generic/superficial answers.
If someone asks you “What do you want to do with your life?”, do you tell them that you want to get famous and build a music empire (in a cool and detached tone)?
Or do you talk about your dream of playing in front of crowds who dance to your music, your big ideas for success and your doubts as to whether it’s all possible (actually allowing yourself to feel the feelings as you speak the words)?
You’re not risking anything with the first response, because your tone masks whether your response is genuine or not.
But the second response opens you up to their judgement. They know this. And now that they’ve seen you take a risk in opening up, you’ve reduced the risk for them to open up. To drop their mask.
TAKE THE RISK. SHOW YOUR FEELINGS
It’s not the words alone that communicate how open you are to talking about real stuff. It’s more about allowing yourself to feel the feelings as you talk, and to try to put those feelings into words as best you can. Because people can see you feeling things. It shows through your vocal tone, your body language and your pauses when you think.
So say the thing that feels scary to say. And do it first. That’s how you have a conversation about real stuff.
Sunday, 11 September 2016
EMSK to close a knife if they opened it
Every man should know to close a knife before passing it off because if others close an open knife it's bad luck. Also, if you give a knife then give a penny. It will prevent the knife from cutting the ought he friendship.
Saturday, 10 September 2016
Friday, 9 September 2016
Strength training for beginners, intermediate and advanced trainers.
This is a very great post on strength training. It is not only for beginners but for all levels in fitness training, bodybuilding training whatever your training this is a post you should read it is nicely written I liked it and know you'll like it even more click or copy link:
I do not own this masterpiece and the writer is remarkable.
EMSKR: How to cut an onion without crying like a bitch.
Cooking is manly. Onions are wrecking my cred though. Any secrets?
EMSKR: How political media personalities stay so educated on current events and the systems behind those events.
I'd like to be more educated in what is going on in the world with foreign policy and economics as well as what the US government is up to. But, it just seems like there is so much information from good and bad sources I don't get where these people get their information from. I think, more specifically I'm worried about statistics, fact over emotional commentary. When I was in college I could easily use the Library's system to find articles and research. Now that I'm an adult on my own I have no idea where to find solid peer reviewed research.
Is it simply reading a bit of everything and taking it all with a grain of salt and settling somewhere in between?
Thursday, 8 September 2016
EMSKR: How to recognize when someone's done talking.
I seem to have an issue recognizing when someone is done talking and it's okay for me to speak. I've tried waiting for a pause but then find it was just that...a pause. If I wait longer then I lose my chance to speak. That's fine and all but this is kind of important in work conversations because I don't want to be a fly on the wall. Sometimes it's just a really good conversation I want to contribute to without being rude. Any advice?
EMSK that you're not attractive just by doing something, but by BEING someone.
http://ift.tt/2ccA7Kd
Wednesday, 7 September 2016
EMSKR: What are the essentials for a safe home?
Carbon Monoxide detector? Radon test kit? Fire extinguisher? Excluding firearms, what do I need in order to keep everyone as safe as possible?
critique my training program
This is kinda a pull from layne nortons PHAT and westside barbell method
Power day upper body Work up to max effort using doubles on Board press Floor press Incline press
3-5 sets . Work weak points 6-10 reps Chin ups to failure Tricep excersise Bicep excersise Shoulder excersise Shrugs
Power lower body Works up to max effort using doubles on Box squat Pin squat Rack pulls
3-5 sets 6-10 reps Hamstring Quad Lower back Calves Abs
Off
Back shoulders hypertrophy Speed work 60-75% alternate form on 10-12x2 Rows Pendlay rows Rack pulls
2-3 sets 12-20 reps Pullups to failure Cable row Pull down variation Db press Shoulder excersise Lat raise
Lower body hypertrophy Speed work 60-75% 10-12x2 Box squat Pin squats
2-3 sets 12-20 Goodmorning (alternate excersise) Quad or hamstring focused excersise Lower back exercise Super set leg curl/ leg extension
Chest and arms 60-75% speed work on 10-12x2 Floor press Board press Incline press
2-3 sets 12-20 Chest excersise Superset db flies/ cable crossovers Dips Biceps x 2 excersises Triceps
Tuesday, 6 September 2016
EMSK what to look for when buying a watch (some watchmaker's tips)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ltSfa0jjg0w
Monday, 5 September 2016
TRICEP ROUTINE FOR MASS/BIG TRICEPS! | RAW COMMENTARY
https://www.youtube.com/attribution_link?a=vMGBpGiemL4&u=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D1r8DcRieSv8%26feature%3Dshare
EMSK: How To Be Assertive
Your friend wants to watch a movie with you. They give you 3 options:
“Do you want to watch Deadpool, Kung Fu Panda or something else?”
You genuinely don’t mind either way. You never mind. You always prefer to let the other person choose, to make sure they’re happy.
You feel awkward subjecting other people to your preferences so you’ve learned to stop having strong preferences… because you’re an easy-going, good friend, right?
Actually, no. Always trying to make other people happy is kind of selfish.
And it’s probably hurting your relationships.
THE PERFECT FRIEND (NOT REALLY…)
Have you ever had a friend who constantly does more for you than you do for them?
They cook you dinner, then they cook you breakfast, then they make you gifts (like… with their hands).
You love it at first and you want to reciprocate. You want to build a strong, balanced friendship so you try to give back. But they out-do your efforts three-fold and tip the balance too far for you to restore.
They know you like the stuff they do for you, so they assume it makes you happy. But it doesn’t, does it?
You can’t completely enjoy the friendship because you feel guilty that you can’t match their generosity. They don’t even let you wash the dishes.
Your neuroses kick in and you start to doubt yourself. You think that they think you’re a selfish friend, because they always do what YOU want to do.
They assure you that your friendship is enough for them, and they don’t want you to pay them back. But it doesn’t feel right to you.
It’s as if they’re undervaluing themselves and compensating with gifts.
They don’t feel like they have enough to offer… so they let you choose the movie.
If you constantly undervalue yourself and compensate by suppressing your preferences, you’ll teach other people to also undervalue you.
We tend to like the people we invest effort into. We feel good when we give. We feel secure in the friendship when we know the other person is happy with us.
So do you give people enough of a chance to invest in you?
If you don’t, you’re robbing them of the chance to feel like they’re making you happy.
JUST CHOOSE THE DAMN MOVIE!
When someone offers you a gift, like…
“Which movie do you want to watch?”
“What do you want for dinner?”
“What do you want to do this weekend?”
Express your preference. Be selfish in that way. Let them feel like they’re making you happy, instead of the other way around.
Don’t let them feel selfish.
If you genuinely don’t have a preference, try making a choice anyway. Give them the chance to feel like they’re investing in you. Like you’re worth investing in.
You think you don’t have enough to offer, so you reject their gifts, right? Well this is also true: You think you don’t have enough to offer because you reject their gifts.
So F#ck Deadpool and Kung Fu Panda. Let’s watch Pitch Perfect!
(That was a joke. Although Pitch Perfect is actually a pretty decent flick.)
EMSK: How To NOT Be A Doormat
Your friend wants to watch a movie with you. They give you 3 options:
“Do you want to watch Deadpool, Kung Fu Panda or something else?”
You genuinely don’t mind either way. You never mind. You always prefer to let the other person choose, to make sure they’re happy.
You feel awkward subjecting other people to your preferences so you’ve learned to stop having strong preferences… because you’re an easy-going, good friend, right?
Actually, no. Always trying to make other people happy is kind of selfish.
And it’s probably hurting your relationships.
THE PERFECT FRIEND (NOT REALLY…)
Have you ever had a friend who constantly does more for you than you do for them?
They cook you dinner, then they cook you breakfast, then they make you gifts (like… with their hands).
You love it at first and you want to reciprocate. You want to build a strong, balanced friendship so you try to give back. But they out-do your efforts three-fold and tip the balance too far for you to restore.
They know you like the stuff they do for you, so they assume it makes you happy. But it doesn’t, does it?
You can’t completely enjoy the friendship because you feel guilty that you can’t match their generosity. They don’t even let you wash the dishes.
Your neuroses kick in and you start to doubt yourself. You think that they think you’re a selfish friend, because they always do what YOU want to do.
They assure you that your friendship is enough for them, and they don’t want you to pay them back. But it doesn’t feel right to you.
It’s as if they’re undervaluing themselves and compensating with gifts.
They don’t feel like they have enough to offer… so they let you choose the movie.
If you constantly undervalue yourself and compensate by suppressing your preferences, you’ll teach other people to also undervalue you.
We tend to like the people we invest effort into. We feel good when we give. We feel secure in the friendship when we know the other person is happy with us.
So do you give people enough of a chance to invest in you?
If you don’t, you’re robbing them of the chance to feel like they’re making you happy.
JUST CHOOSE THE DAMN MOVIE!
When someone offers you a gift, like…
“Which movie do you want to watch?”
“What do you want for dinner?”
“What do you want to do this weekend?”
Express your preference. Be selfish in that way. Let them feel like they’re making you happy, instead of the other way around.
Don’t let them feel selfish.
If you genuinely don’t have a preference, try making a choice anyway. Give them the chance to feel like they’re investing in you. Like you’re worth investing in.
You think you don’t have enough to offer, so you reject their gifts, right? Well this is also true: You think you don’t have enough to offer because you reject their gifts.
So F#ck Deadpool and Kung Fu Panda. Let’s watch Pitch Perfect!
(That was a joke. Although Pitch Perfect is actually a pretty decent flick.)
Sunday, 4 September 2016
Saturday, 3 September 2016
EMSK about merino wool clothing
I'm a 39 year old man who considers himself pretty worldly, and I only discovered this amazing textile a week or so ago so I thought I'd share because I truly believe everyone should know this! I searched and could not see that anyone had ever shared this wool in this sub before.
So you can buy t-shirts and underwear made out of this wool, it's so fine that fabric made from it can be even lighter than cotton.
I read about the amazing properties of clothing made with this wool: Keeps you warmer than cotton while at the same time being cooler than cotton, wicks away all moisture, has anti-microbial properties that combined with the wicking action keep it from smelling.
I bought a t-shirt from Amazon and took a shower and put it on with no deodorant over two days ago. As of right now, including sleeping in it two nights and exercising in it, the t-shirt is: unwrinkled, unstretched, and most amazingly you have to put your nose right up in my armpit to smell any stank (external sources verified).
It was verrry slightly itchy when I first put it on but I stopped noticing that almost immediately, it's very soft.
The only thing I don't know about yet is pilling and how long it's going to last.
I feel like this is some real future shit and if any of you are in the market for smell free clothing that keeps itself looking nice for days check out Merino wool.
EMSKR: Tips for protecting the exterior of your house
I purchased my house a couple months ago and I have been focusing on fixing up the interior mainly. I realize I'm not entirely sure what some common exterior maintenance requirements are to protect the house during the changing seasons. If it helps, I live in Massachusetts so if anyone has experience with this climate it would be greatly appreciated.
Friday, 2 September 2016
EMSK: How to Break Bad Habits - The Power of Habits by Charles Duhigg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqGiRztsTis
Thursday, 1 September 2016
EMSKR: How to improve handwriting as an adult
My handwriting is, and always has been, horrible chicken scratch. Is there a good way to improve handwriting without doing exercises literally designed for 6 year olds?
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